Not to React but respond

Namaskar...Salaam...Hello...to everyone I’m here to talk about some day to day life event we face. 

We know that most of the time in our life we use to react on situation instead of living it...in better words I can say instead of accepting it. This is how exactly we behave...I guess most of us.

So, let’s talk about the people with whom we generally spend our mass hour (means most of the time), college student spend their time with friends or classmates, office going people spend time with their colleagues, and the people who are enjoying their life at home they face the most irritating group i.e neighbors and relative...

In our life most of the time we come across a situation when people criticize us, they criticize our work, they criticize the way we are, they criticize even looks, even for studies we use to hear a lot. There are thousands of reasons out there which make us sad...

So, how should we take these situations? Do we REACT or Do we ACCEPT? both have huge difference. Everyone should ask this que to themselves...because it is a very important thing to think about.

Lets talk about few situation...Do you abuse your boss if he/she don't like your presentation (off course in your mind or in front of your friends), do you start argument or fight with your classmate if they make fun of you, do you stop going outside your house since your neighbors and relative think you are a loser...If you are reacting like this then we are gonna discuss about that...

Now pay attention how our thought process works when we come across a situation against us...साला boss खुद को समझता क्या है (what the hell he think about himself) कुत्ता कमीना mc bc and so on...and if we are being abused by our classmate then, first anger arises inside us... then, if anger increased bit more then we start arguing... if it is raised even more, then maybe we start fighting...if it reached to its extreme may be we plot their murder and in extreme cases they even convert their planning into reality...Have you ever thought what loss you are doing to yourself in mental level as well as physical level...you are polluting your thought as well as your KARMA(action). In mental level you are destroying your peace and in physical level you are destroying your health. THIS IS WHAT WE CALLED "REACTION".

So, what should we do to maintain our peace?Now, here we will talk about accepting the situation...just try to accept the things as it is instead of reacting on it. Since the time you started accepting the situation you will see the POWER OF ACCEPTANCE. Just accept the truth of the moment as it is For example:

i) Today my presentation was not good.

ii) I didn't clear the competitive exam .

iii) Today my friends made fun of me .

iv)my husband, wife, inlaws... whom soever...is not happy with me...many more example are there add it by yourself.

Just accept the truth as it is without reacting, you will do two most profitable things to yourself...first is, you will not pollute your thought as well as your actions...second since you have accepted the truth of the moment may be at that time itself or by the end of the day or may be in few days....you become calm. The moment you become calm, you will realize that you are calm enough to think about your problem in positive manner. And this stage is very powerful, if you attain this stage be proud of yourself...the miracle of this stage is you will stop fighting with your inner world...जो आपको हमेशा डराता रहता है, कमजोर कर देता है क्योंकि आज तक हम सिर्फ react करते आये है accept तो कभी किया नहीं...the moment you stop fighting with your inner world, next thing you have to do is INTROSPECTION (खुद को जाँचना)...this is the second powerful tool...For example:

i) Fine my presentation was not good...try to examine it one more time...where you lack...what your boss was seeking in your presentation... explore all those section which you may have not touched at first time...if you have already touched then think what else you may can add to make it excellent...and trust me a calm mind can go anywhere in this universe and fetch very important things for you in thought itself...and I have faith on you that you will get few more things to add on in your presentation.

ii)Okay fine I didn't clear my competitive exam... then do introspection...what problem you faced during examination...did u forget the things...or you faced new type of que...or exam phobia. Whatever reason you get while introspection you will realise that you get answers while this process itself...and whatever change your prepration is demanding add it in your schedule....see, you become your own saviour. 

iii) If in college you face any problem...then think with calm mind...your present time as a student dose stand in front of these silly things...this time is the most important time of your life because you can shape your life as you were dreaming about it since childhood. Then ask to yourself...is it important to get involve in such rediculous things. Whatever it is...just think, is it more valuable than your future...My dear Friend you need to use this time not to destroy it...choose good friends and enjoy this time of your life.

iv) If your husband or wife or in laws or friends or whomsoever is not happy with you about certain things...then again do introspection...क्या मै बहस करने की जगह कुछ और कर सकती थी? कुछ ऐसा कर देती य बोल देती जो बहस टाल देता य चालू ही न होने देता...खुद से खोजो सारे सवालो के जवाब क्योंकि ये आपके व्यक्तित्व को और ज्यादा निखारेगा और सुन्दर बनाएगा...but atleast try to intospect yourself...you will come across so many thing which will help you to improve your relation.

 देखा सिर्फ एक acceptance का जादू आपका व्यक्तित्व कैसे निखार सकता है...

 Please just for a week try to practice it, if u really find some change in your behavior as well as in your surroundings, then add it in your habbit...and a good habit can change your life miraculously...लोगों का नजरिया निश्चित ही आपके लिए बदलेगा ...

 And always remember one thing...

" If in this moment you didn't achieve your goal, it dosen't mean you will not achieve it ever..."

" Have faith on you..."

"Just accept the moment and start working on it"

Choice आपका है...क्या आप ऐसे ही रियेक्ट करते करते ज़िन्दगी बिताना चाहते है य हर क्षण अपने व्यक्तित्व में काम करते हुए खुद को निखारना चाहते है...

One more thing “Think wisely...act wisely...live wisely..." Be proud to be yourself...

Thanking You

Sameeksha Patel

M.P. (India)